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Being considerate?

 

If you haven’t started blogging five minutes ago, you must know Danny, from Dream Big Dream Often. Danny is some kind of Godfather of the bloggosphere, in an inspiring way! And each day he asks a question to his readers.

Ok, sometimes you might be tempted to wonder if he had a strong fever during the night. (“If you had to choose would you rather loose a finger or a toe?” Really, Danny?) But generally, the questions are thought provoking. Today’s is, and I wanted to adress it, but I was afraid I’d break Danny’s comment box, so I decided to write this post instead.

In a general sense do you try to be considerate of others? Do you see a lot of consideration being paid in the world around you?

You can read Danny’s thoughts about it here.

Personally, I like to think that I am, indeed, considerate of others. As much as I can, anyway. I really really try to act with others as I’d like them to act with me. I don’t always master it, but I am doing my best.

To me, being considerate is the art of making little choices that leave everybody feeling better. Sometimes, I have to take decisions that are selfish, but in general, I tend to find a compromise that pleases me and the people around me.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who prefer to put themselves first in every occasion, and that is a bit contagious. If you spend a lot of time with such a person, after a while, it gets harder to keep being considerate of them. And I think in today’s society, we’re slowly slipping in these “everyone for themselves” habits. The more selfish and selfcentered people are, the less tempting it is to be considerate.

Another thing is that considerate people don’t usually stand out. The “Me! Me! Me!” people get much more attention. That’s just natural… We as humans, have a tendency to notice the negative more than the positive. Just think about a day at work. If you’ve had one very unpleasant interaction with a colleague or a client, even if you’ve had many nice moments throughout the day, you’ll go back home thinking about the *sshole.

So maybe one of the keys would be to try to notice more the people who are considerate of others, even in the smallest ways. Because kindness attracts kindness, and if we all paid a little more attention to little considerate gestures, it’d probably be a lot more tempting to be more considerate ourselves!

What do you think about it?

16 thoughts on “Being considerate?

  1. you raise a crucial point that those self-focused people tend to damp down our efforts of consideration and that doesn’t help anyone … paying more attention to those who are considerate and moving away swiftly from the takers would be healthiest … would those me me people even notice, probably not as they come across as quite insensitive … but eventually they may have to notice when no one pays them any attention 🙂

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  2. What a lovely post! I think it is a great idea to take more notice of those who are considerate. They deserve it. And also those who are considerate of us are the ones that make our lives better.We should be considerate of them in return.

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  3. Doesn’t seem like it should be that difficult to simply act with kindness and manners. Seems easier than being an asshole. I just don’t understand. And, frankly, I’m glad I don’t understand that mindset.

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  4. A smile, manners, and simple kindnesses cost us nothing. As far as I can figure, there’s no reason not to spread a little consideration around to others. Me-Me people don’t really notice the kindness that comes their way. They feel they are entitled to special treatment, however, their attitude shouldn’t deter us from being kind and considerate toward strangers and neighbours alike.

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  5. Thanks for sharing Danny’s blog and for opening up this important discussion. I think you are one of those special people who do a bit of kindness each day in output little part of this blogging world in cyberspace. Your posts are always uplifting. In this “me me me” world, you are writing words that are very much opposite! Thanks for being you! 💕

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    1. Aww thank you 🙂 That’s very kind of you to say… I do try to make a positive difference, even if it’s just a small one. There is enough negativity out there already 😛

      *big hugs* and thank you for being you too 🙂 xx

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  6. “being considerate is the art of making little choices that leave everybody feeling better. ” I love this and hadn’t thought of it quite like this. Awesome post and thanks for the shout out!
    Danny

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  7. Such an important point, if we aren’t other aware as well as self aware then there’s no point, we’d all just be self-absorbed egos – to horrible to contemplate. 2x2x2 ……

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