If you haven’t started blogging five minutes ago, you must know Danny, from Dream Big Dream Often. Danny is some kind of Godfather of the bloggosphere, in an inspiring way! And each day he asks a question to his readers.
Ok, sometimes you might be tempted to wonder if he had a strong fever during the night. (“If you had to choose would you rather loose a finger or a toe?” Really, Danny?) But generally, the questions are thought provoking. Today’s is, and I wanted to adress it, but I was afraid I’d break Danny’s comment box, so I decided to write this post instead.
You can read Danny’s thoughts about it here.
Personally, I like to think that I am, indeed, considerate of others. As much as I can, anyway. I really really try to act with others as I’d like them to act with me. I don’t always master it, but I am doing my best.
To me, being considerate is the art of making little choices that leave everybody feeling better. Sometimes, I have to take decisions that are selfish, but in general, I tend to find a compromise that pleases me and the people around me.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who prefer to put themselves first in every occasion, and that is a bit contagious. If you spend a lot of time with such a person, after a while, it gets harder to keep being considerate of them. And I think in today’s society, we’re slowly slipping in these “everyone for themselves” habits. The more selfish and selfcentered people are, the less tempting it is to be considerate.
Another thing is that considerate people don’t usually stand out. The “Me! Me! Me!” people get much more attention. That’s just natural… We as humans, have a tendency to notice the negative more than the positive. Just think about a day at work. If you’ve had one very unpleasant interaction with a colleague or a client, even if you’ve had many nice moments throughout the day, you’ll go back home thinking about the *sshole.
So maybe one of the keys would be to try to notice more the people who are considerate of others, even in the smallest ways. Because kindness attracts kindness, and if we all paid a little more attention to little considerate gestures, it’d probably be a lot more tempting to be more considerate ourselves!
What do you think about it?