First of July. This morning I told myself…
Yes, dang it, with the “taking a break from blogging”. First and foremost because, let’s be honest, it wasn’t a real break from the Bloggosphere. During my pause, I still worked on a daily basis on our now one month old Word of the Day Challenge. (please do visit, if you liked WordPress’ Daily Post!)
I did stop writing, though. At first, I thought I would write somewhere else during my hiatus, write a journal, or fill napkins with handwriten useless poetry. But I didn’t. At first it was painfull. Almost physically. I would sit on my couch at night, and think about how I would normally have been writing this or that, or replying to comments, while Chéri watched his favorite shows. I became irritated, and pensive, and the blues hit me a couple of times. And I remembered how much more difficult it is to turn a bad day into a somewhat bareable one, when you can’t write your thoughts…
I cheated. I took some of my blogging-break time off to give Twitter another chance (@CovesTales) and I must say… I almost understand it, now. Almost. (No, I don’t, but I manage to send messages, and I received some “likes” and messages back, so I am guessing my “tweets” get somewhere!)
I thought a lot… Too much, at times. My college philosophy teachers would have been quite proud of me. Or scared. Maybe a little of both at the same time. I thought a lot about Life and about Death, about the big dualities of life, and just basically having long conversations with myself. Which was probably necessary to some extent, but after a while, the lack of feedback becomes annoying, hence the growing need to come back to The Cove for good.
I think that if I want to look back at June 2018 positively, I need to list the good things that came out of my “not blogging” for a month. Hopefully this can help some of you too! (which is possible, since I’ve seen many notices hanging at some of the blogs I follow, saying that their owners were taking a break too!)
So… Good things about taking a pause, and tips to come back strong. Here we go!
Getting desensitized to stats
I have to admit, my statistics didn’t go completely flat, during my leave, because of the Word of the Day Challenge. BUT, they dropped drastically. The first few days, it felt kind of sad to see the number of readings I had achieved to get per day almost flatlining. And one morning, my head went into “the dang with it” mode. After posting a couple of short poems pre-come back, I noticed that I was even less worried about how well my posts are doing, now. Every reading is a good one. I’ll take just what comes my way, and be happy with it. At least, I’ll still be blogging, right??
People come and go
When you decide to take a break, for whatever reason(s), one thing that comes to mind is “won’t readers forget about me, and unfollow my blog?” Well of course there will be some “unfollowing” involved, but you’ll most likely be very surprised that it really isn’t that bad. I was even surprised that some people would decide to “follow” The Cove, even though I wasn’t posting any new stories or poems. (By the way, thank you for joining in, you lovely people who pressed the “follow” button during the month of June!)
You might sometimes get the feeling “why should I go back…No one misses me, no one even takes the time to check up on me, and ask if/when I’ll be back!” Now, that’s a normal feeling, and it is just the home-sick blogger in you whining a little. Be honest, I am sure at least one or two people did get in touch with you, while you were quiet. Didn’t they? Yeah I thought so… And aren’t these people just fabulous?? If you didn’t get any offline message, you most probably don’t interact much with your readers to begin with. And this explains that. But regardless who did or didn’t get follow up messages from readers who missed them, what’s great is to see who IS there for your come back! I bet you’ll be surprised!
Setting new goals
I won’t come back full throttle. And I think you shouldn’t either. (unless you were the type of blogger who posts once a month… then go full throttle all you want!! – Sorry, I like this expression… Full throttle! Full throttle! Full throttle! Ok, this should be enough for now!) I won’t because I wouldn’t last a week, at the pace I posted in the past. I might get back to being my old blogging self, but not overnight, that’s for sure. Another reason is that I want to be able to keep up with comments. That’s one of the things that pushed me into taking a break. I love interacting with people, and leaving comments unanswered really troubled me. Now, me myself and I have agreed that I will post less, and maybe not reply as fast as I used to, but I’ll make it a priority to have a good connexion with people who take the time to leave me messages! These are my goals… Yours may be different, but a blogging hiatus is the best timing to set them for yourself!
Getting your Mojo back
Now this might be just me, you can tell me if you’ve been there too. But blogging daily for almost three years, conditionned me to be a pretty spontanious writer. If something spoke to me, I wrote about it. I rarely kept a subject for the next day, or the next week. Let aside the Cybelle & Vohne series, I didn’t know in advance what I’d write the next day. Even after just a month away from my stories, I feel it hard to find that back. Just today, I have been working for a couple of hours on a story I wanted to post. It is dark and pretty dramatic compared to what I usually write, but I wanted to give it a try and see what the feedback would be. For some reasons, halfway through it, I just started having doubts, and double thinking everything. I guess that creativity is like a muscle, and it gets atrophied and overcome by reason after a while not using it.
So, yes, I guess I can say that I am “officially” back…
Have you taken a break from blogging too, lately? How was it for you, and what did you learn from it?