As far back as I can remember, I think that being kind to others has always been something of great importance for me. It most likely came from my parents… The greatest lesson they passed on to me probably is to treat other people as I would like to be treated. I wouldn’t try to fool anyone, I haven’t nailed it just yet, but I do work on it on an almost daily basis, trying to my life and the lives of others a little better.
Up to quite recently, I believe that I was a little bit naive about it. I did believe that even the grumpiest person could be touched by a random act of kindness. That being kind could be contagious.
I’m not saying that I was totally wrong, and my will to be kind to people isn’t shaken. But I’ve realized that in 2021, a lot of people consider random acts of kindness suspicious. I can understand that. Our society has become very individualistic, and it makes us all more cautious in general. It makes sense that people would wonder why others would be kind to them for no apparent reason.
Here is an interesting post about a woman who tried to start a Pay it forward movement. She tried to do little things like giving a free coffee to strangers in a coffee shop. As she explained, most people would refuse her offer until she gave them an explanation as to why she was being kind to them.
Again, I get it, but it saddens me. Why do we need to have a good reason to accept kindness?
My guess is that there are far more genuinely kind people than we could think, that would help others without second guessing. But knowing that offering a helping hand will raise doubts instead of just putting a smile on their face, is reason enough not to do it.
But I am not giving up.
No way José!
I’m sticking to my kind ways. No matter your doubts!