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Looking back… Day 10. (December 11th FFF)

I was invited (well, not personally, but still…) to join the Fandango’s Friday Flashback!

Fandango scrolls back, every Friday, and gives a second chance to a post he had published on the same date, years before. I thought it was a great way to remember some of the stuff I did a while back, and I decided to participate…

So here it is!

Previously published on December 11th of 2018, here is a very personal and emotional piece of my life. These thoughts haunt me every year at this time.  I hope you’ll enjoy this (again). And where ever you are, stay safe and well!


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Fifteen years ago, Christmas Eve.

I lived in Trois-Rivieres, and worked as an emergency medical dispatcher… In short, I answered 911 calls, and sent ambulances to people in need. I was one of the last people hired, and I had to cover most of the holiday season.

I didn’t really mind. To be honest, it was quite rewarding to work on Christmas Eve, because there were a lot of calls from people who were especially miserable and alone on that special night. I was glad to make a difference.

I was covering the graveyard shift. Meaning I would get off at six in the morning, and therefore, I had to miss the yearly party at my grand parents’ home. I knew my whole family was having fun, while I dealt with chest pains and distressed people.

Before midnight, my mom called me from the party, to wish me a Merry Christmas. I told her to forward my warm wishes to the whole family, and I went back to work.

Our work stations had several wide screens, displaying entering and ongoing calls. Shortly after the turn of date, I noticed a familiar address on one of them.

71 Launier street.

Bad news.

77 years old male. Uncounscious. Not breathing. 

My heart skipped a beat. Make it two. My grand father was dying.

I told my co-workers that was my grand parents’ address. Everybody knew it wasn’t looking good. There was a snowstorm going on. My grand parents lived in a hard to reach place. There was little hope the ambulance would get there in time.

Before I knew it, I was in my car, rushing to the hospital where the paramedics were taking my grand father. I got there about the same time they did. My parents were next, followed by a couple of other family members.

We sat in the waiting room.

When the head nurse came to tell us the doctors had tried all they could, but that my grand dad had suffered a sudden aneurysm, I broke down in tears.

I was the only one not attending the Christmas celebration. His last. By about an hour.

I pleaded to be awarded the right to see him. Everybody told me it was a bad idea, since he was freshly deceased and not most pleasant to watch. Nurses insisted that I could be traumatized, not being used to seeing dead bodies.

I insisted. And finally was allowed in the room where he was.

I cried. A lot. Not because of his blueish look, but because I felt guilty. I should have been there, just before grand pa passed away. I should have shared his last moments on earth. I cried and cried, and kissed his wrinkled hands…

I am not one who has trouble mourning. But this was my first grand parent to leave, and it was a special timing, to say the least.

I got over it. But I must say… Every Christmas coming, I think about that night. I haven’t missed a Christmas party since.

I miss you grand pa. I hope you understand that I was helping people like you, when you left this world… I hope you were proud I was.

I hope…

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8 thoughts on “Looking back… Day 10. (December 11th FFF)

    1. Thank you, Fandango. It was a really bad timing for a dramatic event in our lives…. But we don’t get to choose, do we? I grieved, but still, every year, I have a thought for my grand pa. Now, I think it is both a blessing and a curse.

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  1. What a terrible trauma to see the address pop up on the screen and you not there. I wish I could come up with some soothing words to help you get over that guilt. It is a terrible burden to bear, but just remember that guilt is an emotion only justified when you have actually done something wrong, and you did nothing wrong. It was just bad timing.

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    1. Thank you Basil… You are right, ”guilt” shouldn’t be the feeling I still get, every Christmas. Deception probably would be more fitting. Life is life (or so said Opus, LOL), and I am grateful that none of my grand parents had to suffer covid-19 (I still have a grand-mother, but she’s in an elder home really really strict on health measure).

      Hey, Merry Christmas 🙂

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  2. I remember just sobbing for you the first time you shared this….and I sobbed again. I just want to hold you in loving arms to help you through the pain. May your thoughts of him this Christmas be only good memories.

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