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The fine art of commenting… (April 17th FFF)

I was invited (well, not personally, but still…) to join the Fandango’s Friday Flashback!

Fandango scrolls back, every Friday, and gives a second chance to a post he had published on the same date the year before. I thought it was a great way to remember some of the stuff I did a while back, and I decided to participate…

So here it is!

Previously published on April 17th of 2018, here’s one of the most viewed posts I published. I chose it because re-reading it, it made me realize that I should listen to myself, and I will keep working on that.  I hope you’ll enjoy it (again). And I do hope that all of you are safe, where ever you are, in the world!

 


 

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I usually stay away from writing the “Let me tell you how to” kind of posts.

I do it for a good reason. I am no pro, about anything. I am not the person you should come to, no matter the advice you are seeking.

Unless you plan to travel to Denmark. Then come to me! I have a bag-full of the best advices you could possibly get.

I would never pretend to have enough knowledge or skills to guide new bloggers. There are lots of much better people around for that… But (there’s always a “but”) I was reading Cristian Mihai’s post Commenting on other blogs; What works, what doesn’t today, and it is definately an important aspect of blogging for me.

Some people like commenting, and others are rather quiet and will just visit and/or leave “likes” behind them. Either way is fine with me, but I’ll admit I really enjoy the direct interaction.

I have my own netiquette when it comes to commenting. And although I don’t know better than anyone of you, here are a few points that are important to me, when it comes to leaving comments on fellow bloggers’ posts…

 

Be constructive

Although most comments I’ve seen are writen to agree or compliment the author, it happens that you disagree more or less strongly with the subject of the post. It is ok to disagree, but I think there is always a constructive way to leave your opinion if it differs from the writer’s. If you can’t write something polite and if you absolutely feel the need to be agressive, keep your comment to yourself. Please. No one appreciates feeling attacked. (ok, yes, some people like drama, but I think that the vast majority of bloggers don’t seek that)

 

Be grateful

I’m not talking about reacting ridiculously to every comment you get, but it is always a good thing to at least aknowledge it, when people take time to leave their appreciation.  A simple “like” or a “thank you” can do, if you are a bit busy. I think it is also ok not to answer right away… We all have a life outside the bloggosphere, and very few of us have all day to keep up with feedback we get on our blogs. As I write this, I know I have a bunch of comments left to reply to… And I will get to them later today. If you know you won’t be able to answer the notes left in your inbox, you always have the option to close the comments.

 

Take some time, if you have some

There is no such thing as “too short a comment”. A “well done!” or a “Really enjoyed this” is always appreciated. But if you have a little time on your hands, and a post really speaks to you, it’s a nice thing to be more specific. Quoting a certain part of the post, or explaining more extensively why you enjoyed your reading can lead to an interesting conversation. That’s how you get to connect with other bloggers, and believe me, there are tons of amazing people around, ready to have a lovely chat.

 

To link or not to link

I am not against leaving a link to your blog in your comment, per say. I do it every once in a while, when the post I read is directly connected to the link I am leaving. Or if I wrote something about the blogger I am leaving a note to. What I have a problem with, is when people leave a comment like “Hi, please come visit my blog and tell me what you think! *link to blog*” I know there is no bad intention, when people do this. And usually, these comments come from brand new bloggers… But they just feel a bit agressive to me. Come have a short chat instead, you have a much better chance of getting my attention. Oh, and please, don’t even think about asking people to “follow” you…

 

Please don’t shout

Writing in capital letters means you are shouting. There are a few exceptions, like a loud burst of laughter (who doesn’t enjoy seeing that a fellow blogger found your last post hilarious?) but in general, no one likes to be screamed at. I know I don’t. (This doesn’t apply to you, Carol Anne… I know some of you always write in capital letters. It is ok with me… Don’t worry at all!)

 

As I previously said, I am not here to tell others how to blog, but if my opinion can help someone, I think it is worth posting. Plus, if you want to read what a far more experienced blogger thinks about the subject, and how it could improve your blog, click here, and tell Cristian Cyranny says “hi”.

 

Happy blogging, Lovelies!

 

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12 thoughts on “The fine art of commenting… (April 17th FFF)

    1. Thank you Thomas 🙂 You know I love your work… I should comment more, and I’ll make sure to comment more… I have to listen to my own words, right? 😉

      Stay home and keep safe, my friend xx

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  1. All valid points, C. There is a certain unwritten blog etiquette, and it has an equal measure of common sense and courtesy. If someone takes the time to visit and comment on your blog, it would be polite to also visit theirs. And why not be a little curious about who you are ‘talking to’?
    I agree about the blogs that only visit to get return hits on their blog, or repeately leave, “great post” – week after week!
    I also agree that we all have time constraints and as our blogs gain a larger following, we can only manage what is feasible. When blogging becomes a chore, it loses its charm.

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    1. Wise words from a wise woman, Amanda 🙂

      I think that we are limited to what we can do, but as bloggers we should give feedback to people taking the time to comment on our work. I have failed my readers in that way, lately, because of different reasons.. But I am trying hard to catch up 😉

      Stay home, stay safe, dear friend! xx

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  2. It is lovely to get comments on a post you’ve written, but in the beginning I did feel bad when I might not have responded straight away. I now know that we are pretty much all in the same boat and other bloggers understand we have lives outside of blogging, so probably aren’t expecting an immediate response!

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    1. I agree… I think after blogging for a while, we understand more that it might take longer to get a reply. But I am working hard these days to give quicker responses to all the people kind enough to comment on my blog…

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  3. One of my pet peeves is when I go to a blog and leave a comment and the person does not respond in any way. If I see there are already 157 comments, I don’t expect anything but if your post has 0 or 2 comments, just let people know you read there opinions. It’s like speaking into the air. I actually unsubscribe to blogs where they don’t acknowledge comments.

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    1. @Cyranny and Basil : I usually respond to every comment and sometimes ither comments on other blogs, if I see them and most times I do. And I also challenge those who write: ‘great post’ by asking ” in what way?” – mostly those are the people who don’t respond further. If a blog has 157 comments, I would how it said something worthwhile TO comment on!!!

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    2. I agree… And I am greatful you didn’t unsubscribe from my blog because of my current random replying. I phase out of my blog every now and then to try to focus on (the weird) real life going on at the moment.

      I am working hard on following my own advice 😉 *Much love to you and your better half*

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  4. I always check out the blogs of those who leave comments, and those that follow. I do enjoy the interaction with fellow bloggers. Unfortunately, so many of those who comment or follow never visit again, and are just trying to sell something, or get a reciprocal follow. I’ve also wondered why some blogs that have thousands of followers get very few likes or comments. It’s a bit of a mystery to me.

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