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Cyranny’s quickie!



Do you prefer to give, or receive advices?


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8 thoughts on “Cyranny’s quickie!

  1. No one ever asks me for advice, so I don’t know what it’s like to be on the giving end. As for receiving it, it’s fine if I asked for it, but most of the advice I get was unsolicited, which I hate. Giving unsolicited advice is a serious breach of good manners.


  2. It depends. Part of my role is counselling and advising, but when it comes to friends, I would not offer my advice liberally unless asked. I do have a sneaky habit of slipping things into conversations though. For example, I heard a friend stressing out about the cost of living the other day. I had spent the whole day with her and seen her spend about £30 on coffee, muffins, lunch, bottles of water and soft-drinks and other things. Whereas I had made my lunch at home, filled up a flask with coffee I made at home and two reusable bottles of water at home because I knew we were going to be outside all day. So I sort of slipped into our conversation that everything has a cost and being aware of how we can reduce expenditure in one area can help us cope with the rising costs of essentials.

    I appreciate it when other people give me advice in a subtle way, sharing what has helped them rather than telling me what I ought to do. Areas like health, diet, finances, romantic relationships or other friendships – when people express strong opinions, sometimes very judgemental or dogmatic opinions, it can be uncomfortable. But I like to listen to what other people say, and when I detect practical wisdom I do adopt those ideas and humbly recognize that someone else has taught me something very useful and valuable.


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