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Cyranny’s quickie!

 

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How important is the concept of marriage to you? Are you, or have you been married?

 

 

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11 thoughts on “Cyranny’s quickie!

  1. How important is the concept of marriage? I’m odd (at least with the religious bunch I claim as my own) because I’m polyamorous in nature. The LDS Church believes in monogamy only, and like most Christian religions, a man and a woman in that union. I was married for eighteen years before my husband passed away, and I hated all but maybe the first six months of it. I’m widowed now and single and will remain so until I die. Oh and celibate. You didn’t ask, but I often overshare… 😛

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  2. I have been married twice. The second time, I thought it was for life… I can’t even imagine trying again now. I still believe in it and think it means something to make that public commitment. My daughters are both married to good men.

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  3. Yes, married for 42 years, at the beginning getting married was also handy as married quarters meant we had somewhere to live, but that wasn’t the reason! It’s good for children, for a family to all have the same name, but I think a good relationship doesn’t need marriage.

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  4. I take my marriage vows very seriously, but that doesn’t mean that it is all a bed of roses. No, no, no. There are plenty of days I just don’t think I can do it any longer. But I think the worst is now behind us. We are strong again, and getting stronger every day. We’ve been married 16 years.

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  5. I am married but the concept of marriage is not that important to me. My husband and I have been legally married for 5 years but we have been together for 35 years and have two adult children. Five years ago my husband said it might be difficult for which ever one of us survived the other to collect the old age pension if we were not married. I told him I thought that was the worst reason to get married I had ever heard and so we had better get on with it. We laughed and set a date there and then.

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    1. My daughter’s dad was a little surprised when I told him I would not get married again. He started about what about rights to kids, and making medical desisions, or benefits when we are older. I told him there are papers we can fill out to take care of pretty much all of that stuff. But there are a few he pointed out that would be a problem if we weren’t. I just told him we would get a good lawyer figure out the best way to handle things once we got settled.

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  6. Been married, been divorced, planning on getting round to getting married again at some point.

    But to me, its not just a bit of paper but pretty close, but its the legal protection that it gives you in the UK.

    For example, if my partner was a very high earner and we had a few kids, I gave up my career to be a stay at home mum and then we split up, I have little or no rights to any of his money or property unless my name is on it as well. Of course he would have to pay maintence for his children, but I could end up being homeless with my children. Its the bleakest option and for most people unlikely but it does happen. Also things like if for whatever reason someone has to make medical decisions for me, that at the moment is my mum, who might have very different views to what I actually want, so the thing is if you are planning on having kids with a man and you are not sure you want to get married, just do it, if you have a child with someone you are tied to them for a minimum of 18 years, the marriage might last less time, but you will be far more protected with that piece of paper than without

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  7. married..more than once. first lasted all of 8 months. Second (to George, my beloved) has lasted forever…..I honestly can’t remember when we haven’t been together. He’d say for 30 something years (I think)

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