Following my previous post, I exchanged a couple of messages with some of you, regarding how brilliantly the day was unfolding for me. I’d like to thank you all again for your kind words, and your pats on the back. I don’t call you Lovelies, “Lovelies” for no reason. You are awesome people!
And one of awesome yous left me the following message:
NNNnnnooooooo!! There is something seriously fucked-up with the Universe lately. If it weren’t for Bad Luck, we’d have no luck at all, and it seems like you are in the same damned boat! Positive vibes and meditation aren’t working. So, let’s share a Pity Party where we just get drunk and shout curses and eat chocolate. We can ugly cry and grieve and throw inexpensive things we don’t need anymore and blame people we don’t like for all our woes. Once the Hang-Over is over, we can extend our apologies to the Universe but explain how it brought all this on itself by being so damned difficult. And then we just have to let The Norns do their worse. They might knock us down, but while we’re down, we’ll make weapons for when we get back up. 😈
That was my dear Mrs Completely, coming to the rescue with a great idea! (I love you Lori! I really do… And the Viking too!!)
And you know what? She is right! When Life throws you lemons, you just slice them up take the Tequila bottle out of the cupboard, and you start pouring the shots!! (Dang Life!!)
I realize that many of you are going through rough times of your own… Stuff I probably didn’t read about, because you didn’t talk about it in your blog, or because you did, but since Dad was brought to the hospital after his stroke, I haven’t read much of anyone’s blogs.
So I thought I would throw the very first (to my knowledge)
Wine & Whine Party!!
How does it work? Well, like any Meet & Greet party, the point is just to gather together, and mingle around… But incidentally, also share what’s going wrong in your life at the moment… Share links to your favorite whining, or ranting posts (Ben, please don’t flood my comment box, I know you have a lot of bitterness to offer!) and bring along a bottle of your favorite poison, so we can drink to how Life can sometimes suck, and it’s ok, because we are all in the same boat!
So wether you just knocked your big toe on the bed leg this morning, or your house burnt down last week, just join in and let it out!
Shall I start the discussion?
So, if you read my F*ck you, Life you already know how my day started.
When I woke up, this morning, two messages were already awaiting me. My little brother and my bestfriend had already heard about Wow Air cancelling all of their flights after running out of business. Needless to say that I’ve had better ”rise and shine” moments in the past.
Basically, my upcoming trip to Denmark is cancelled. And I highly doubt that I’ll reschedule it because
- I don’t know if I’ll get my money back, yet.
- The cheapest alternate airlines are at least twice the price.
So, yes, I was devastated. I was extremely excited to see Spring in Vikingland again. The bright yellow rape fields, the tall lilac trees in full bloom, the cherry trees blossoming in Copenhagen…
I cried, I was angry (hence my F*ck you post) and that’s when Mom called home. This didn’t come as a surprise, since I knew Dad was scheduled for a coronary angiography this morning. What I didn’t know, was that he would need a cardiac surgery, that would (most likely) be performed here in Montréal. Which meant that things were not looking good.
But Mom was in a hurry, and since they hadn’t met with the cardiologist yet, we hung up before I could get much details.
So I spent the afternoon staring at my smartphone, at work, with teary eyes and a don’t-f*ck-with-me attitude.
Around 6pm, Mom called again. Dad will get his surgery within the next three weeks, and is not allowed back home in the meanwhile, because of the high risk of having a heart attack.
I had time to let the dust set a little.
I know that Dad is in the safest place possible, given the circumstances. I know that the surgery is farely safe (and much safer than running around with a partially blocked heart) and that he will most likely going to make it.
But I have only one Daddy. I love him with all my heart, and I can’t help but worry sick for him. And for Mom.
And there is still that bitter ”Guess you’re not going to DK after all” feeling caught in my throat. I know it’s only money. But it’s not. I needed the getaway. I needed the connection with Danish ground again. My heart needed that innocent and free escapade…
But hey! Life doesn’t always agree with your plans, right?
Your turn now… Leave your best whine in the comments, and I’ll make sure there’s wine for everyone! Let’s pat each other on the back. And when the party is over, we can all smile sincerely again!
Well I find it kinda funny and I find it kind of sad; the dreams in which I’m dying are the best I’ve ever had. I find it hard to tell you ’cause I find it hard to take; when people run in circles it’s a very very…
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Mad world!! (looove that song)
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And you did know it’s originally a TFF song right?
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Is it?? I didn’t know that!! (just checked it out! it’s great, thanks for telling me that!!)
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Enjoy the fucking cake. I’ll have a big fucking glass of wine. Just for you.
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🙂 I appreciate it, Brutus! I am sure you’ll be happy to have a good reason to have that big f*ckin’ glass of wine… Hehehe
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Okay… Whine it is… I just paid 500 bucks for a used washer and dryer 30 days ago with a 90-day warranty. They both have “issues”… The washer having the most problems with the issues showing up about a week after purchase. The guy at the store is avoiding all my calls and texts. I can’t afford to just blow 500 bucks (who can really?). He has sent me a few texts, “We’ll make it right.” and “I am trying to get ahold of my guy”. HIS GUY?? How can you sell used dryers, washers, fridges, dishwashers… and NOT be able to get ahold of the guys that fix all that crap before you sell them??? (<— See all the agitation in all those question marks?)
I live in a world of more health issues that I really don't want to go into. I can't just go get in the car and drive a half hour to go bitch this person out. It is going to come down to it though. I am not a violent person anymore… But this guy is pushing my buttons. Those buttons still function just fine!
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Good luck and make sure to read the warranty thoroughly so you are well armed!
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Yeah, it’s crazy… Still nothing from the people… This is driving me nuts.
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That sucks…. I hope they get in touch with you soon. And that Karma will bite their *ss for making you loose all this time!
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Thanks, I think I am stuck getting it fixed myself. Honestly, I love the washer… But it just isn’t working, lol…
I’ll most likely take them to small claims court with the bill and report them to the Better Buisness Bureau (BBB In the US)
I’m bitter and pissed though…
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Just imagine how much you’ll love it when it actually works! 😛
You have every right to be pissed and bitter! And I hope you’ll report them, so they don’t go on screwing people around!!
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Arghh… Maybe you could text the guy that if he doesn’t get in touch with ”his guy” you’ll get in touch with ”your guy” to get a refund? I’m with you… No one has 500 bucks to spare on something that doesn’t even work properly… First or second hand! Thanks for sharing…
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Reblogged this on Its good to be crazy Sometimes and commented:
I dont normall y share post over the weekend, however this is a special case. Go and rant on Cryanny’s blog and then come and have a peaceful hour on mine. I have nothing to rant about other than Brexit and losing my debit card. If anyone finds it I would be grateful oh and maybe finding a way to get her to Denmark would make her day maybe her year
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Awww what a great reblog 🙂 Thanks Trina! I agree, our parties compliment each other quite well 😛 *Hugs* Fab you xx
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Most welcome, I saw it and thought, its always worth a share.
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First, that cake gave me a great laugh this morning! I’ve had many days like that when a cake is appropriate or just saying f about ten times in a row seems to help. I rarely say it anymore since my grandson is growing up enough not to use it all the time and he’s far away now. I digress….you know I love to use that word….things can only go up when they’re so low right now. Be relieved your dad is in the hospital, but three weeks there, he needs regular pickmeups while he’s stuck there. Go through your payment method and make them get your money back! Persevere! And as for the party, I’ll bring gin and tonic and lots of limes. I haven’t had one of those in about ten years or more. 😂 Lindt, Ghiradelli, Swiss, or Belgian chocolate, your choice! Big hugs, my dear C!❤️
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Gin & tonic? Great idea 🙂 I tasted my first just last year, and I can’t believe it took me 40 years to discover this cool drink! hehehe I am glad you joined the party, Cheryl… I know you’d have your share of whining to do, but one can’t talk with a mouth full of chocolate, right? 😛
Today is fight-back day, and I’ll start by doing everything I can to get that money back. When that’s done, I’ll turn every stone to find a new deal, even if it doesn’t come anywhere close to the one I initially had. And I’ll keep you posted 🙂
If I manage to go to Denmark anyway, I just might bake a ”F*ck Yeah!” cake and throw another party 😛 *Big hugs* right back 🙂
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I don’t know what we did, Universe, but can you please stop shitting on us?! Seriously! I will be ever so grateful if you’d find someone to buy my Condo so we can pay off some debt and go to Denmark for some desperately needed Hygge. Also, would you mind taking a moment to fix the Danish Election so I can move with The Viking to Denmark? And since I’m talking to you already, please send us someone to buy our business. And last, but not least, please help Catharine get to Denmark as well. She truly deserves it and WOW Airlines going bankrupt shouldn’t affect such a wonderful lady.
I know I’m demanding a lot of things from you but I am very grateful for all the wonderfulness you have already provided us. We are happy and healthy and have stuff and have food and a roof over our heads and we try to stop and smell your roses and enjoy the great outdoors. We just need a little nod right now. And so does Catharine.
Thanks….
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I second the motion!!! Dear God, cut these ladies a damn break, please!!!! They don’t deserve all the frustration they are going through. Come on God, we’re requesting a miracle.
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Yeah! What Beckie said! And when you start throwing miracles around, you should give her one, too!
You’re a doll, Lady! 😀
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Thank you, Mrs. Completely!
Funny thing was it felt good to scream it out, even if it was done through my fingers. LOL!!! 😂 🤣
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You go girl! 🤸♀️ I think it’s good to wallow in self pity from time to time because it makes you lighter when you get up to face the world again. 😘
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Yeah, lighter in fact, that I am spending the day Spring cleaning, with some fun tunes and then taking my first walk of the Spring season and enjoying the wonderful temps for the very first time all year!!! YAY! 😊
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I vote for giving Beckie a f*ckin’ break too!! Come on, Life!! Hear us here!! 😉
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I don’t think you’re asking too much, but then again, I am a bit biased 😛
I really hope you get to sell the business and the condo soon, so your plans to move to Denmark work out and I can have my guest room ready 😉
About the Danish election, what exactly is keeping you from moving with the Viking? Is it because you would need to work in Denmark? I am aware that immigration laws are VERY strict, and that’s why I haven’t considered moving there for good seriously yet. It is almost impossible for a Canadian citizen to make the move and be allowed to work. And that (definately) sucks!
I think I’ll write to the Queen, and ask for a special permission for us two! I’ll tell her we are the two best Hygge Ambassadors in Canada, and as such, we would deserve free access to Denmark at all times! I’m sure she’ll agree that we can only be good for Vikingland!
I’ll let you know what she has to say about it! 😉 xx
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It has to do with the EU. Apparently, people who live in any EU country can easily immigrate to Denmark. Otherwise the rules are almost impossible and requires you to have somewhere in the neighbourhood of $20,000 CDN dollars in a bank account to pay for any social assistance you may need. It’s ridiculous. The Viking can go home any time.
Me? Even though we are married – Nope! However, if we rent an apartment in Germany for a minimum of 3 months, we can move into Denmark without issues. Weird, right?
Oh my Gawd! Yes! Let’s write the Queen! That Lady is the best Queen in the history of the world and I’m sure she’ll recognize our worth immediately. When you find out where to send the letter, let me know and I’ll send one too. 😂 What’s the worst thing that can happen?
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Hey! I have the email adress of Her Majesty’s secretary office… 😉 That’s how I got my official birthday wishes last year 😛 I just have to find a very eloquent way to talk about us, without sounding like I am joking… Sometimes my passionate ways can look like mockery 😛
I think there should be an exam, to prove how much we love Denmark, and that we want to come for the right reasons (being real cool, kind and hygge wannabe-Danes). And we should be allowed to stay, even if we’re not Europeans!
I’ll let you know what I come up with 😛
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Love! Yes, send me your note and I’ll send you what I come up with. Denmark IS a poorer country without us. 😏
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Can you imagine if this actually worked, in any kind of way?? I feel like an eleven years old right now 😛
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LOL! I know what you mean. I told The Viking what we were planning and he laughed. He doesn’t think we have a hope in hell but what’s the worst thing that can happen? She’ll think we’re nuts and throw our letters in the trash? Or maybe she’ll think we’re cheeky 11 year olds. 😂
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I would be honored to know that we gave her a smirk 🙂 It doesn’t cost a dime to dream, right?
I’ll get back to you with my first draft soon 😛
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Due to my being a recovering alcoholic, I’ll go with the WHINE then…
I can do Whine real well. In a nutshell, I am seriously worried about my mother who lives 3000 miles away. I can’t afford the trip down to Florida until November at the earliest. When my mother says “I just don’t want to do this anymore.” (because of all her health issues)… this sends me into a dither. We now speak to one another at least three times a day now because she worries me so much.
Then there’s my biatch of a sister (mom’s other daughter), Hell… sister is too kind of a word. The TROLL lives only an hour away from my mother and could care less about her. The Troll is snippy and disrespectful to my mother all of the time.
I’d kill to be able to take care of my mom, and this bitch does absolutely nothing to help whatsoever. The Troll hasn’t visited with our mother in over a month, and the excuse is always the same story since she was 25 years old. “I have a life, I have a husband and a child that needs my help always, plus I work all the time. TRUTH: child = 18-year-old who is leaving for college to get away from said Troll of a mother, the husband is allowed to cheat on her if he wants, and she only works 3 days a week!!!
I believe in my heart of hearts I’m allowed to Whine about this situation.
Thank you for letting me let it all out of my system… Love all my blogging buddies!!!! 😘
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Awww…..geez! You have a load, Lady. I hope your Mom knows what a wonderful daughter she has. You….not the Troll. You deserve a break, too. And a Blanket Fort. Never underestimate the comforting abilities of a Blanket Fort. May blessings fall over you. 💙💜💚
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AWWW! The blanket fort sounds so lovely! I may take you up on that idea. LOL!
My mother and I are best friends, not just mother/daughter. I’m looking so forward to seeing her in November, hopefully, maybe… October. 😊
Thank you for being such a doll for listening to me burst at the seams last night. You’re the best, Lady!!! 💛 💚 💙
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It WAS a pity party after all. 😏 Kidding aside – there are people who make my world a little brighter just by being there. So, if there is a little bit of light I can bring to someone else, it’s a huge win. 😘
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Well… I thik it was a great party afterall. I have gotten to meet you, and now follow a new and wonderful woman! Yay! I’d say it’s been a win win for all!!! 😂 🤣
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Lori IS an amazing lady and blogger… I am glad I had something to do with you two meeting 🙂
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You should hold more pity parties more often. LOL! Yeah, I learned to love her real quick! 🤗
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Will do! All the frustration is far better out than caught up inside! 😛
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Agreed! 😉
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I concur! It was nice meeting you, too. So glad you had a good day. 🙂
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It was wonderful, and I hope your was as well, Lori.
Time for these old bones to lay back and have Netflix be the center of my attention. LOL!
Have a wonderful evening! and/or day. 😊
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Oh dear Beckie… That’s a lot to get off your shoulders!! I am glad you shared this with us 🙂 I understand better why your mother’s health issues are all the more upsetting for you… It is awefull that the Troll doesn’t care more about your Mom. Life is sometimes so unfair 😦 Why do you have to wait until October or November to go see her? Because of the traveling costs?
I really hope that your Mom will get better and suffer less soon, and that you’ll be able to go South and visit her earlier than planned!!
Feel free to come again and whine some more if you need it 🙂 The comments will remain open!
*Lots of luv* your way xx
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Hello, C… I’m alright. I feel so badly for all that you have been going through. I’m happy that the hospital is keeping your father there in order to keep a close eye on his condition. He’s safe there. Your mom needs to make time for herlself and get some much-needed rest too.
I really feel awful that a wrench was thrown into you travels. That ultimately sucks the big one!!!!
Yeah, money is a huge obstacle to to hurdle when I go down. I only receive my disability check, and I can only put a portion away per month in order to save for this trip. I’ll be able to start saving come June. So, I am crossing my fingers that I can save enough to visit my mom come October.
And, just like last November, I will send a warning to the Troll that I am coming down, and DO NOT WANT ANY CONTACT WITH HER. I’m not a violent person, but if I see her smug face and her fakeness, I may just smack the *Bleep* out of her.
Until then, My mom and I will continue talking everyday 2-3 times a day.
I have to admit, I really enjoyed the pity party. I got to meet Mrs. Completely, and am now following her as well. Lovely, Gal!
I love our blogging community!!!! God Bless, You All!!! 😊🤗😘
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It sucks when money gets in the way… I really feel for you 😦 And it must be sooooo very annoying for you to know that the Troll could be with your mother any time she wants, and you have to rely on phone calls 😐 Not fair!
I understand why you wouldn’t want to get in contact with her in any way or form.
I think we’ll have to do this kind of Whine & Wine Parties once in a while, just to vent altogether 🙂 I really enjoyed it too! It is a good reminder that people are so incredibly awesome and supportive here, on WordPress! I agree with you, the community rocks!!
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At least a minium of once a month, defintiely! 😉 😊
You know what’s funny. Today was the first time in over a month that the Troll went to visit my mother. – What’s even funnier is how my mom say’s “God, that visit was not worth it at all, she’s so bitchy all the time. I have so more fun with you.”
Not for nothing, but that makes me feel great inside. Here I am about to turn 53 years old, and I act like, “Nah,nah,nah… Mommy likes me more than you!!” I am truly pathetic.
LOL! 😂 🤣
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Mouahahahahahahahaha Life’s just so mysterious, right??
Enjoy the ”being Mommy’s favorite”, you’ve earned it!! Childish? Maybe, but if it makes you feel good, I say: Go ahead!! Heheheheh
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Thank you! 😁
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Reblogged this on Beckie's Mental Mess and commented:
REBLOG: I am inspired this “Wine and Whine Meet & Greet” by Cyranny’s Cove. A really good get it out of your system and meet others feels very right in the world. LOL!
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Thank you for the reblog, Beckie 🙂 I am glad you enjoy the (unusual) party! I think we all can use a little whining from time to time…
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I agree! And, your welcome! 😘
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I accidentally deleted your message about helping me with pingbacks. Sorry. Eeeek!
I would love for you to assist me with this!! Thank you, so very much in advance. 🤗 🤩
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I’ll send you a few tips by email, after supper… Just gotta answer a couple more messages and get the meal ready 😉 And I have another surprise for you… You’ll see 🙂 xx
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Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! You’re a Godsend! 💗
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Aww you’re too sweet 🙂 Check your email box later *big hugs*
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Thank you, Dear. I will probably look at it tomorrow morning. I pretty beat from all the fresh air and cleaning I’ve done for most of the say on only 3-4 hours of sleep, if that.
I reatly appreciate all your help!! You’re the Best Babe!!! 💗
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Good night, dear 🙂 xx
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I felt bad “liking” this post since it was about so much misery you’re going through, but I just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and I am sending you lots of thoughts and prayers and positive energy. If I could get the money to you, I’d send you to Denmark myself.
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You don’t have to feel bad, big bro 🙂 ”Misery” might be a little strong a word, here.
To say the truth, with the bad news about Dad’s health, and the time spent away from home to help my family the past two weeks, exhaustion built up. And when I learnt about Wow’s bankrupcy and Dad’s coming heart surgery within just an hour or two, it was just too much emotion at once!
Things are a lot better now… I am working to get my money back, and preparing to welcome Mom home when Dad gets transfered to Montreal for the surgery.
Thank you for the warm thoughts and prayers… It is amazing to see how the support of people I have never had the chance to meet face to face can make such a difference…
I am one lucky girl to have such great people around me! And I am really grateful for that 🙂 *big hugs*
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No, it sounds like “misery” was just the right word. Any one of those things would have been hard to deal with, but having them all stacked up on top of them was truly a misery.
I’m glad things are better. Just hang in there. If I’ve learned one thing in my life, it’s that no situation we’re in, either good or bad, lasts forever. And, good or bad, having friends close to us (even if far away on the internet) makes the good times better, and the bad times less bad.
I will continue to pray for your Dad.
*big hugs back!*
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I agree, all the support I receive on Mom and Dad’s behalf, here on WordPress, is just amazing, and it does make a big difference! It really helps me staying strong by Mom’s side when the news are rough to take, because I know I can come and vent here… And awesome people such as yourself are always there to give me a pat on the back, sharing warm thoughts and prayer…
Makes me feel extremely lucky and blessed! xx
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We are all blessed for knowing each other. 🙂 oxoxo
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Oh, yes, indeed!! 🙂
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I’m having some ice cream for you..salted caramel..
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Thank you, Dewy 🙂 I hope Life’s treating you well, and if it doesn’t, come here and rant a little, you’ll see, it is good for the mood to vent it out 🙂 xx
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I don’t have much to rant. My life is pretty good at the moment. May be more sex wouldn’t go astray 😂
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Well, what can I say… Cheers! And here’s to you getting laid more often 😉 That’s always a good thing hehehehe
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Hhahahahahaha I hadn’t realized that! But it IS a great party, and between Mrs Completely, who is throwing stuff around, the cursing and the chocolate eating going on… I think it was worth the exposure LOL
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I hope your daddys ok! I am sending a big hug! And prayers! As for me, I’ve been better. I am low a lot, depressed even. I didn’t get to see my psych doc today, I am sad about it, I needed to see her, I know she had an emergency, and that doesn’t normally happen, but man! I wish she hadn’t gotten called away! Certainly messed up my day and my plans! ❤
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